A father's fear

So I am sure that every soon to be mother and father have some sort of fears during pregnancy whether it is about giving birth, being responsible for another life, raising your child in this world, or in my husband’s case, that your child will like you!! J This very interesting, yet annoying conversation started out Monday while at the Doctor’s office.

Monday afternoon we got to our doctor’s appointment and everything was going great. Well we get back into the room and Keith was being so annoying. He was just randomly talking about things of no importance and seemed really really antsy. He kept getting up and walking around the room and messing with all of the doctor’s stuff and mocking everything I had to say. Finally I asked him to please sit down he was making me nervous and was being very annoying. I asked him what was his problem and his response was that he was “nervous”. Really?!?! I said to him “Why are you nervous?! You are the one just sitting over in that chair not doing anything and I am the one sitting on this freaking table!!!!” Thank goodness the doctor walked in the door shortly after that! LOL

So that was the end of the convo until yesterday in the car. I am not for sure how this all got brought up but we ended up talking about our fears during this whole experience. For those who know me well you know that my pain tolerance is 0. I do NOT do pain well at all!!! I had an ingrown toenail one time and you would have thought someone was trying to kill me when Keith was trying to get it out. So my main fear is of course LABOR!! I was also saying I was nervous about being responsible for another life and raising a child in this world. Very deep stuff! Well then it was Keith’s turn to say what he is fearful of. His response: “I am scared of my kid not liking me”. This is what he is afraid of, that his child will not like him. He said he wasn’t worried about raising a child in this world or anything like that, just that it won’t like him. I thought I was going to die from laughter. I had to reassure him that at times our kid will not like him and that is because he is being a good parent. I told him there were times that I didn’t like my mom but the reason I didn’t is because she was parenting me and doing what she was supposed to do! He said that he knows people who hate their parents and then being my annoying self with a psychology background I went all into reasons why children hate their parents and yada yada yada! Annoying I know! But Keith seemed to agree with me so my job was done! But he is still worried about his kid not liking him. I wish that the only fear I had was something like that and not all the things I really am fearful of! Oh to be a male and have it so easy ;)

<3 Kristen